Do you often contemplate?
Since I was going to be posing that question to the two or three people who would be reading this post, I thought it would be a good idea to get the proper definition.
There are two actually, in the Oxford dictionary at least.
Contemplate;
- “Look thoughtfully at for a long time”
- “Think deeply and at length”
Now, here’s my observation, doing #1 will often lead to #2. Then if you really want to get yourself up shit creek , you move onto stage 3 , Speculation.
Also courtesy of the Oxford;
Speculate – “form a theory or conjecture about a subject without firm evidence”
Looking in the mirror is a good place to start the whole process. It can be as innocuous as this;
Examining yourself extensively in the mirror [ contemplation #1 ]
“I’d swear I have more grey hairs than I did last week, how’d that happen? “What am I going to look like in a year’s time? [ contemplation #2 ]
I probably won’t have any brown hair left. Worse yet, I’ll probably have no hair left” [ speculation ]
If left unchecked , it can get even darker. Which brings me to another dictionary definition ( I love having the Oxford Dictionary app on my desktop! )
Check;
– “stop or slow the progress of something ( typically something undesirable )”
– “curb or control (one’s feelings or reaction)”
Bingo!
Keep your speculation under check.
Most bad stuff we foresee ( speculate on ) doesn’t end up happening. They’ve done research on this. What the speculation does do though is leave us feeling kind of flat, and at worst, depressed.
I have a better option for the three steps;
- Look around at all the good stuff you have happening in your life
- Think about how good you’ve got it
- Speculate on how good life will be in a year’s time as things just keep getting better.
Enjoy your journey!
About David Mazzotti
David Mazzotti is a certified Life Coach and owner of Brighter Path. He is a "Midlife Makeover Coach" helping clients create a midlife that is fulfilling, meaningful and fun
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