In the 1980’s the pop group Moving Pictures had a hit with their single, “What About Me?”, a song empathizing with the “little” people, the impoverished and unnoticed people in society. The chorus is famous;
“What About me, it isn’t fair
I’ve had enough now I want my share
Can’t you see? I wanna live!
But you just take more than you give…”
In listening to it recently, I thought, “that’s something that someone married to a partner in a mid-life crisis could relate to!” It’s so often the case where the person in the crisis becomes so absorbed in their self satisfaction, they neglect the ones that are the closest to them. For them it can be all taking and no giving.
If you are in this kind of situation, don’t feel bad about wanting your share, especially if for some time you’ve been the one giving. It may be time to look at your own life and see where you want to go, what does life have for you in this particular part of your journey?
Sometimes it’s ok to ask “What about me?”