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I was listening to an album I enjoy recently, Supertramp’s “Breakfast in America”. One of my favourite tracks on the album is “Take the long way home”. As I was following the lyrics, it struck me how much it sounded like a song about someone struggling to cope with a mid-life transition. When Rodger Hodgson wrote the song, he could have been describing a man in the middle of a mid-life crisis, and fact, it seems he may well have been! The imagery of a man driving home to a wife who doesn’t appreciate and treats him like “part of the furniture”, living out a dream of who he’d like to be, feeling isolated and misunderstood all relate to someone struggling with an identity crisis.
A lot of guys take the “long way home” in mid-life. Taking the detour of an extra marital relationship, the detour of trying to maintain the image of a youthful person, the detour of trying to be someone they’re not. In the end, they may end up back home, but they may find it a different place than the one they left. The people they hurt along the way may not welcome them back.
Sure, mid life can be a tough time , and it’s not always a smooth journey. But taking the wrong detour is not the solution. We have to face up to the fact that life has changed and rejecting that change is only going to make things more difficult. That’s not to say we have to grin and bear it, often mid-life is a time to consider making some changes. But these changes have to be sensibly contemplated and thought through. We have to get down to what are our core values at this stage in our lives; what are the things that are most important to us, and what things can be discarded.
Only then can we start on our new journey into the second half of our live’s with eager anticipation and not dread, clarity not confusion. Start your journey today the correct way and avoid taking the long way home!
So you think you’re a Romeo, playing a part in a picture-show
We take the long way home, take the long way home
Cos you’re the joke of the neighbourhood, why should you care if you’re feeling good
Take the long way home, take the long way home
There are times that you feel you’re part of the scenery, all the greenery is comin’ down boy
Then your wife seems to think you’re part of the furniture, oh it’s peculiar, she used to be so nice
Lonely days turn to lonely nights, you take a trip to the city lights
And take the long way home, take the long way home
You never see what you want to see, forever playing to the gallery
You take the long way home, take the long way home
When you’re up on the stage it’s so unbelievable, unforgettable, how they adore you
But then your wife seems to think you’re losing your sanity, oh calamity, well is there no way out?
(Ooh, take the long way home)
(Take it, take it, take it home)
Does it feel that you life’s become a catastrophe, oh it has to be for you to grow boy
When you look through the years and see what you could have been, oh what might have been if you’d had more time
So when the day comes to settle down, who’s to blame if you’re not around?
You took the long way home, you took the long way home, you took the long way home (Same thing again)
You took the long way home, you took the long way home (For luck), you took the long way home
You took the long way home, you took the long way home
Long way home, long way home, long way home